Teresa & David will ONLY recommend books that they have read and consider to be useful.
Teresa & David are both great readers and, given that there aren’t many places providing the sort of help they are offering on this site, they have had to find their own way. Of course they know that doing it this way is not for everybody – otherwise they'd have a single-page website saying simply ‘Read these books, and you’re sorted’ 🙂
If, however, you would like to take a look at some of the books that have inspired and helped them, this is the place. Communication being at the heart of their relationship, they have not just read the books but discussed their contents with one another. They will not list a books unless one or other, and sometimes both of them, has read it and found it helpful
Aspergers in Love by Maxine Aston
Teresa: This was one of the first books I read on the subject, not long after that lightbulb moment when we realised just why we were struggling so much.
David read it shortly afterwards and we discussed it at length. Given David’s Gender-Complexity, the sections at the end of each chapter where Aston compares the more well-known male form of Asperger’s with the less well-known female variety, offered us further valuable insights
An Asperger Marriage by Gisela & Christopher Slater-Walker
Teresa: a useful dual perspective here, with certain incidents and experiences being looked at from both sides of the spectrum: how it looks to Gisela who is NT and how it looks to Christopher who is